Is It Love… Or Something Else?
- Aude Firmin
- May 25
- 2 min read

How to tell the difference between real connection and old patterns in disguise.
We’ve all felt it — the instant pull, the spark, the feeling that this person must mean something.
But here’s the question I want to ask you:
Is it love… or is it familiarity wrapped in fantasy?
As a psychic, coach, and soul-led woman, I’ve witnessed this confusion so many times — in my clients, in my own journey, and in the energetic patterns that show up again and again.
Let’s break it down.
✨ Love vs. Pattern
That electric chemistry you feel when you meet someone? It’s not always a green light. Sometimes, it’s your nervous system recognising an old wound.
Yes, you can be drawn to someone deeply — and it can still be your subconscious trying to finish a story it never got closure on.
Real love feels…
Grounded
Calm
Respectful
Expansive
Safe to express and to rest
A trauma bond or karmic entanglement can feel…
Obsessive
Unstable
Highly emotional but confusing
Like walking on eggshells
Hot and cold — with addictive highs and painful lows
Sound familiar?
🌀 What Your Intuition Wants You to Know
Your intuition doesn’t speak in panic. It speaks in quiet knowing.If you find yourself overanalysing someone’s texts, feeling anxious waiting for their reply, or losing yourself in the fantasy of “what could be”... it’s time to pause.
Your guides, your body, and your energy field already know when something is off.
But if you’re used to chasing breadcrumbs, proving your worth, or waiting to be chosen — your intuition might be clouded by your past conditioning.
❤️ Here’s What Real Love Looks Like
It won’t make you second-guess your worth.It won’t leave you wondering where you stand.It won’t drain your nervous system.
Real love shows up. It chooses you — consistently.It sees your light and doesn’t fear your depth.
💬 So… is it love? Or is it a lesson?
Only you can truly know. But if your body is tired, your heart is anxious, or you’re always questioning — your intuition might already be giving you the answer.
🔮 Need support tuning into your truth?
This is the kind of work we do in Spiritual Life Coaching or Reiki — clearing the noise, softening the fear, and learning how to trust your energy over your overthinking.
If this stirred something in you, I’d love to connect.
👉 Book your free 30-min consultation to learn more.
You are worthy of love that’s calm, clear, and reciprocal.
Not just intensity — but intimacy.
Not just chemistry — but choice.
Not just magic — but safety too.
And it starts with you choosing yourself first.
Hi Aude , what is real love is a good question , i fell in love several times but always got hurt one way or another